Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Make Me a Believer
i sensed an inner conflict......thoughts were swirling inside....making me uncomfortable.....making me melancholy. Maybe men aren't capable of love.
my question of the moment is : are men capable of love.....of feeling "love"?
do men even know what "love" is?
i know there are different levels of "love"
love of a friend.... love of a child....one's son/daughter.... love of a woman ...etc
are men truly capable of loving women?
i know men are capable of "lust"
but is that all there is......never love.
Are we, women, foolish to expect that a man's "lust" can ever transform to "love"
i know women are capable of love....a profound love of her partner based on what women say....based on my experiences. Women talk more about love with each other so it's easier to know what women think about love.
but maybe men aren't "wired" for that kind of love
and maybe that's why men and women find it hard to make relationships work.
Men and Women constantly fight or are disappointed because
we have different expectations of "love"
because we experience/comprehend love in DIFFERENT ways.
i would hope
that men think
love is more than
cooking for him
doing his laundry
bringing him a beer
Sometimes i think men aren't capable of "loving"...of "love".....and that makes me sad.
(sorry if any man is insulted by those comments)
tell me if i'm wrong
make me a believer...
i hope men are capable of love
i hope men can truly love....transcend beyond lust.
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8 comments:
As a man, I believe this is something men are capable of, but it isn't encouraged in some circles.
Lusting is part of who we are as men, but it doesn't have to define us.
I agree with Zataod. It does not define us. If you read my last post. I hope that makes you a believer of men being able to love. It is the poem that reflects the yearning for that love. I really loved this one. It has such emotion. Keep up the good work.
Z,
you make some excellent points.
Men really aren't encouraged to show/express "love" so many hold back. some circles don't consider it manly to Love. I think that is BS. Of course it is manly....it is part of being a human.
It seems like society allows men to lust not love while allowing women to love and not to lust.
As a woman, i must say that i've rarely felt encouraged to lust.
Santiago,
thanks for your 2cents :)
i will stop by and see your post.
you have writing about love before....you do make me a believer. thanks for being so open about love in your previous posts.
I say be who you want to be as a man, without your environment dictating your life. It's not encouraged? neither is homosexuality, but there are still homos. If you love a woman show her that you do. Or most likely you will make her miserable and lose her. I have written many poems myself and think this is a pretty good expression of what the dr really feels... However most of mine are clustered thoughts as they are written and take me time to decide what I really fealt as I was writing them.
Here is one...
-SOMETHING-
I often wonder
Is this a normal life
Or merely a blunder
I reach so high
But climb so little
I walk so far only to circle
I try to understand
But get more confused
Have I missed out on nothing
Or do I have nothing to lose
Who is my judge
I think it is me
So I'll reach much higher
To climb a little more
I'll walk further
My circle will grow
And some day you'll see
Something..... I'll BE
and one about my brother he treated his woam good, she was the prettiest or the thininest, but he treated her like she was..
-Little Man-
January 18,1982 - September 18 2003
The will of “Little Man”
Who lived for all he could
An artist of smiles
And painting them on faces
A mechanic of comedy
Only working for laughs
A doctor of love
With many of patients
Oh so humble, with all this pride
Too much to do, in such a short time
If you need a hand, I reckon two will do
Traveling so many miles
Yet seeing so few places
Dyeing inside, crying to sleep
Nowhere to hide, from one lonely fear
My little brother, more man than me
The kindness of life, beaten by death
One donation away... didn't get the call
Only 21 and, lost to Sixty-five Roses
Last words on earth, “I Love You All”
~ November 8, 2003~
TDK
i've asked myself that very same question over and over and over...
sonrisa,
i think men can....
but i think the problem is some don't know how because they weren't shown love or how to love.
Like Zataod said, it isn't encouraged in some circles. sometimes it is seen as being "weak". just think of how a guy is teased when he says his in love.
but there are some courageous guys out there who don't let others "restrict" them.
TDK,
you are right. men need to show women they love them or the women will be miserable. we all need someone to show us love.
and i enjoyed the poems.
the one about your brother is very moving. an excellent tribute to a great brother!
Dr.V
This is one of my favorites...
IF I... WOULD YOU?
If I wrote a poem...
would you read it?
If I wrote a song...
would you sing it?
If I made a path...
would you follow it?
If I made a kite...
would you fly it?
If I spoke from the heart...
would you listen?
If I spoke of happiness...
would you see it?
If I was a clown...
would you laugh at me?
If I were you...
would you be me?
If I built a clock...
would you make time for me?
If I built a dream...
would you share it with me?
For me this is poem was wrote about and around one line did you find it? it is the commitment to each other.
If I were you...
would you be me?
as in it is who we are no matter what form. you know if you are with someone, And you woke tomorrow as them, wouldn't you hope that they had become you?
Have a good day...
TDK
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